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An Oh So Valuable Lesson in Gratitude

So after having a fun packed xmas, with family, back in London, things took a turn for the worse afterwards…

Some very bad news was received about someone I knew, although not well, but enough to know they are a lovely person. This was in itself devastating.

On returning to Wales, with my mother, with whom I’ve been ‘staying’ for the last 3 years, I developed what I can only describe as the ‘worst’ I’ve had ever felt’…

Fortunately, as I always hated this, after being twice to the doctors in a week, not one of them said ‘there’s a lot of it about’.

This was always ‘bandied’ about when I was young. The doctor would say to you, as if you offer some comfort ‘there’s a lot of it about’. 

… and I know how we hate to be ‘alone’ in anything, knowing someone else is suffering too, somehow gives offers us some ‘consolation’..

However, this was not forthcoming.

Then my sister, found an article in The Times, about the ‘coughing flu’…


So for the last week, I’ve had this dreadful ‘coughing flu’…

I’m never sick.. really, seriously..

… I may get a bit of allergy and sneeze etc but rarely anything more, so this hit me like  a ton of bricks.

Relentless coughing, until my whole back front and sides ache from the exertion. 

Taking Ventolin.
Steriods and finally anti-biotics in some effort to elleviate the horrendous symtoms.

However this, is not about how I’ve suffered, not at all.


This is about what I’ve  learnt from this horrendous week. How very blessed I am.

As I said, before Im staying with my mother; shes 85, an incredible woman.

You’d think she were 20 years younger. Shes been a rock to me whilst I’ve been ill for which Ill be forever grateful. 

and,  as a mum shes been very concerned for me.

One evening, as I was going back to bed, and she was asking me ‘is there anything I can do’  her face looked pained, I know as a mother myself, we hate to see our children in pain.

I pointed out ‘Mum, its just a bug, I’ll be over it soon, there’s always someone worse off’ (my dads words ringing in my ear from my youth).. and ‘think of Alice’ (name changed, the person I referred to earlier).

You see, for all our niggles, and colds, and aches and pains, there is always someone worse off.


Since losing my fur baby 5 years ago and going down a very dark tunnel, someone suggested gratitude to help me out and boy did it work.

Its worked ever since.

I love getting out in nature (something I’ve really missed this week)

I stare at the sky, the clouds, the birds in a state of awe…

I sit by the ocean, just listening to the sound of the waves, watching the fishing boats, just sitting there in absolute peace waiting for the fish, or not as the case may be.  Its just beautiful.

I never got ‘fishing’ until a a few years ago, but now I do.

To just sit there and be and listen to nature. As a fisher man said to me the to other day, when I asked if he caught anything ‘getting a fish is a bonus, its just being here’…

Just before I caught this bug, I was grateful for my lung, that I could breathe easy.

This week, I have not been able to , so I have really appreciate my lungs, as they ordinarily are.

my eyes, my ears, every part of me….

So I encourage you to wake up every day with gratitude in your heart…

Don’t take anything for granted.

Not your legs, or your fingers, your hearing, your friends, your family.

Do you know you can’t be grateful and Anxious?

Being grateful will bring more good things to be grateful for into your life.

Wake up and write a list of 10 or more things you have to be grateful for, for yourself, for others, life… just let your subconscious take you there…

You remember, when a person appreciates you, you’ll go out of your way to give that person more…

Finally, before I go, I saw this just the other day, it was absolutely a sign from the Universe ‘you’re on the right track, Helen’… enjoy and remember to thank your lucky stars everyday

That’s just how life works..

Helen x
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I Really don’t like myself very much | Neither did I

Omg how I relate to this, not so much now, but in my younger years.

Maybe like me, you look at a photo of yourself and cringe ‘OMG What do I look like?” once again, you’re not alone, we have all been there, are there.

In fact Im blown away by how many women do not see how amazingly gorgeous they are. Gorgeous, stunning friends of mine, that I look at and think ‘omg you look just like Sandra Bullock’ (yes I really do have a friend who reminds me so much of her)

That was so me, in my youth and indeed until Not so very long ago !! Eeek

I grew up, the youngest of 3 girls. We were all about 2 years apart, but I felt and looked about 10 years younger.

I felt like such a stranger in my own home, I have no idea why.  Oh yes, I used to get a different present to them at xmas. They would get the same (how boring I think now) and I would get something different and like all kids, I just wanted to blend in, be the same.

I was a very timid young woman. The last to get my boobs, my period even a boyfriend. Well knowing what I know now, ie that when you actually tell people how you’re feeling, you realise ‘OMG you feel like that too’.. so in retrospect, I probably wasn’t the last, however back in the 70’s I felt like I was.

I can’t remember when it happened, but I started to get into Personal Development.  I remember getting the Secret out of the library and then immediately buying the book AND the film and watching it again and again.

However, long before that my confidence started to grow.
I left the UK on a whim.  I had taken the plunge and moved from S Wales, up to London – to seek my fortune !! test my wings, find myself..

Then a couple of years into my living in London, I met a Kiwi (guy from New Zealand) and to cut a very long story short, he had to return to New Zealand. Despite my plans to go to Canada as a nanny, i found myself saying ‘Ill come with you’.. and that was that.

It wasn’t all plain sailing however. Whilst he was a lovely man, after planning our trip to New Zealand, trip booked and paid for, our relationship, at this stage about 18 months,  started to crumble… however we decided to still do the trip.

Why am I sharing this? Because stepping outside of my comfort zone, was the making of me and it Can be for you too.

Whether thats moving to another town, across the world, going to ‘that party’ on your own will only do one thing – empower you. Even if things go wrong, as they have with me.  I checked into an awful but ‘cheap’ hostel in Melbourne a few years ago, could not get myself out quick enough – walked across town, pulling my ‘far too big/heavy  for travelling’ suitcase, and found another hostel where I had a blast!!

I had come to Melbourne, to do the Great Ocean Road and yet I had no one to do it with..

‘OMG,  I can’t do it’. I told myself

Bearing in mind, I was probably one of the oldest women around, surrounded by these young men and women in their 20’s.  I asked around and everyone had done it, so I started to rack my brain, with the thought coming to me

‘Helen, get a grip you’ve come here to Do this trip, just do it’

So I  perused the internet and found myself a lovely little trip on a mini bus, starting at 7am in the morning, returning at 11pm.. booked it…

OMG I was soo freakin’ excited !!

 

 

Me Feeling Soo good at our First stop on the Great Ocean Road, one of the best things I ever did

Doing things like this, learning to laugh at my mistakes has made me the person I am today.
And No, I can absolutely tell you, Im not always confident. 

So start by asking yourself ‘what have I achieved’ and ‘how amazing am I’

Because You are.

 

I  shared this video several years ago, just had to share it again

Read empowering books, Pam Grout, Jen Sincero, Rhonda Byrne.. they are all amazing women and amazing books.

Honestly guys, its taken me ‘years’ to love and accept myself.  Im not quite there, I still have areas I don’t like. However I chose to focus on what I do.

My hair, my teeth, my eyes, my smile, my arms, my tops half (ha ha ).

My legs, my daughter recently said to me ‘Mum you have lovely legs for your age’ ha ha I laughed but thought I’ll take it !! 🙂

I absolutely Love this scene…
look at this guy, he is gorgeous and yet he doubts himself

 

 

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With Love always 

Helen aka Be Deliciously Free

 

 

 

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You are So Much Better Than You Think You Are

I hear so many women..talk ‘trash’ about themselves…. do you realise this? Are you aware of it? Would you talk the same way to your best friend?  Do you realise You are So Much Better than you think you are?

Don’t get me wrong,  I can totally relate

that was me…

I grew up, a very shy, introverted, young woman lacking confidence…

however I did have Drive… and had Ambition and I knew what I wanted..

I didn’t do very well at school, which wasn’t easy for me… having two elder sisters who were doing well

You Are So Much Better Than You Think You Are
Me age about 28.. not realising how amazing I was..

However, I knew from the relatively early age, I wanted to be a Nurse.. it was in my blood..

…I told Everyone about it – I didn’t realise back then I was basically ‘Talking My world Into Existence

As I said, i wasn’t doing very well, I didn’t like school...however I knew what I wanted to be…

You are So Much Better Than You Think You Are

 

Im the one on the left with the swimming cap on…

I didn’t feel bright, I didn’t feel pretty (yes I know now I was)

…I didn’t feel “cool’…

I was Petrified of boys..

So All In All I wasn’t a ‘Popular Girl’

….However I knew I wanted to be a nurse, so I was Focussed on that

and I KNEW I needed Biology

Long and short…

…I flunked school…

I remember a horrendous day..

I had this wonderful friend of mine Angela.. at school.. she stuck by me when I was bullied

She was always there for me.. and I would try and be there for her..

I would ‘drag’ her to the library to study…

However, she didn’t ‘need’ that.. she was One of those people, that despite not seeming to do any work

…. She Absolutely Flew through her exams.. I on the other hand crashed and burnt…

I did manage to get what I needed.. English and Biology

I was Again Amazed when I got into Nursing !!

Years passed by… I had my goals, to Be a Nurse and to have babies…

About 10 years ago.. I was talking to a Coach of mine…

Still not feeling very confident..

My Coach asked me

So What Have you Achieved Helen? I was about to really surprise myself

I sat there thinking ‘Well I wanted to be a nurse,  and I achieved that

I also wanted to learn to drive.. I achieved that too, First time I passed my driving test’

… I started to Smile..

‘I wanted to have children, I’ve had a girl and a boy, I always wanted one of each ‘….

My excitement was starting to grow now, ‘and I have travelled much of the world’.. I always wanted to travel !!

My Whole attitude changed… OMG I have Achieved Everything I ever wanted to..

That day was to Change My Whole Life, I was never to Feel I hadn’t achieved anything ever Again. It also told me That I COULD achieve anything I set my heart to..

Remember People You are SO Much Better Than You Think You Are Ask Yourselves ‘So What HAVE I achieved’…

With Love

Always here to help You…

Helen

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PS: The Photo above? I didn’t know how Amazing I was..and Boy don’t I look hot !! 🙂 (Yes I AM allowed to say it – as Are You xx)

 

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If I die doing something I love, then Im Happy

If I die, doing something I love, then Im happy. My Dad..

this was something he always said… mostly as he got older and continued pushing the boundaries…

I was having a conversation the other day… about ‘Adrenalin rushes’… I like them… in fact Im thinking of my next one… I learnt something from my dad – he was still doing Paragliding in his 70’s…

My dad taught me so much growing up, how to treat people, how not to treat people.

He made me work for everything when I was young, nothing was given to me on a plate.

That stayed with me ,I’ve done a bungee and a ski dive..and people will say 

‘Oooh How can you trust the plane or this or that’… and you can’t..

There are no guarantees in Life… You can go tomorrow – crossing the road… You can drop down dead tomorrow… ( sorry, however it IS the case) I just picked this out of a beautiful post by a young man who was given a death sentence…

In all honesty – WE are ALL going to die.. the Difference is Most of Us… don’t know..

I have done some terrifying things in my life, spontaneously moving to New Zealand in my last 20’s.  Arriving there, rowing with the man I loved and having to find myself a job and accomdation.
Booking myself into some horrendous accomodation in Melbourne, and finding something PDQ and walking across town the next day to find a better place !! Its hilarious, and fun and has made me stronger and wiser !!

My dad

So back to this article,

Where as some people are told ‘You have 4 months to live…. That could be Any of Us…

Anyway – this young man – wrote this down.

Don’t waste your time on work that you don’t enjoy.

It is obvious that you cannot succeed in something that you don’t like. Patience,

Passion, and Dedication come easily only when you love what you do. It’s stupid to be afraid of others’ opinions….

…and yet most of us, if not ALL of us have been there… Fear weakens and paralyzes you.

If you let it, it can grow worse and worse every day until there is nothing left of you, but a shell of yourself. Listen to your inner voice and go with it. Some people may call you crazy, but some may even think you‘re a legend. Take control of your life Take full responsibility for the things that happen to you.

Limit bad habits and try to lead a healthier life. Find a sport that makes you happy.
Most of all, don’t procrastinate.
Let your life be shaped by decisions you made, not by the ones you didn’t.
Appreciate the people around you Your friends and relatives will always be an infinite source of strength and love. That is why you shouldn’t take them for granted. –

You can read more here… http://www.thinkinghumanity.com/2016/06/powerful-advice-from-a-dying-man.html So Live your Life..
LOVE your Life… Its for Living Its For Loving…Accept Yourself,  Be YOU Be Deliciously Free 🙂 

 

x Helen


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If I Die Doing Something I love |  I’m Happy

If I die doing something I Love, then Im Happy,  my dad..

This is what My dad always used to say… he was Paragliding well into his 70’s!!

I was having a conversation the other day… about ‘Adrenalin rushes’, I like them, in fact Im thinking of my next one…ballon ride.. nah thats really not really me

If I die doing something I Love, I’m Happy

If I Die Doing Something I love | Then I'm Happy

 

That stayed with me, I did a sky dive a few years ago -tell you it was just bliss.

I drove my human babies, plus my fur baby to the airport, an hour’s drive from my home in Wellington, New Zealand. It was a beautiful day, I have rarely been as excited. Doing something for ME and having my kids (both human and fur) to watch me.

Yes it was  a tad scary, however so freakin’ exciting too as my instructor jumped out of the plane, but to see that beautiful scenery, to see ‘earth’, well in my case, New Zealand from such a great height and then slow travelling in the air…

and at one point, ‘driving’ myself.. was just amazing and for my kids to be down, on the ground watching me.. was just incredible, and I remember that going through my head, both preparing for it and doing it ‘If I die doing this, I least Im happy.’, have to say – wasn’t an easy thought as three of the people, well my fur baby too, I love most in the world were watching me (my kids and my fur baby)

However you just Have to go with your heart !!I did a bungee -21 years + ago,second year in New Zealand.. wow what a buzz that was…and people will say‘Oooh How can you trust the plane or this or that’…

and you can’t..This is Me Just before My Sky Dive… Buzzing Absolutely…
If I Die Doing Something I love | Then I'm Happy

Of course as you do, when its your first time, I was doing a tandem

There are no guarantees in Life…and if you wait for guarantees,you would sit at home all night.. doing nothing

 

So yes this Is Now My Mantra 🙂 and the way I feel about others.

If I die doing something I Love  I’m Happy

You can go tomorrow – crossing the road…

You can drop down dead tomorrow… sorry was that a bit of a shock to you? lol..

I am sorry – however it is the Truth… hence why we just have to Sieze the day,I just picked this out of a beautiful post by a young man who was given a death sentence . In all honesty – WE are ALL going to die.. the Difference is Most of Us… don’t know..

Let me just emphasize here, Im not saying, Everyone has to sky dive or bungee.. each to their own, what I am saying is Live your Life –

Take Chances….. don’t be afraid, go into everything thinking metarphorically and literally ‘if I die doing something I love, then Im happy’ its such a Freeing way to think and Live.

Grab Those Chances.  Where as some people are told ‘You have 4 months to live…. That could be Any of Us…

Anyway – this young man – wrote this down,

If I die doing something I Love then I’m Happy

Don’t waste your time on work that you don’t enjoy.

Patience, passion, and dedication come easily only when you love what you do.

It’s stupid to be afraid of others’ opinions.

Fear weakens and paralyzes you.

If you let it, it can grow worse and worse every day until there is nothing left of you,

but a shell of yourself.

Listen to your inner voice and go with it.

Some people may call you crazy, but some may even think you‘re a legend.

Take control of your life Take full responsibility for the things that happen to you.

Limit bad habits and try to lead a healthier life.

Find a sport that makes you happy.

Most of all, don’t procrastinate.

Let your life be shaped by decisions you made, not by the ones you didn’t.

Your friends and relatives will always be an infinite source of strength and love.. (or maybe not.. they do Love you.. however strangely their way of showing it can be)

That is why you shouldn’t take them for granted. –

 

See more of this post  here

For me, this applies whether you are dying or not……

and if you still have doubts.. then take a look at this…

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.</
“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.”

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends

“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”

What’s your greatest regret so far, and what will you set out to achieve or change before you die?
Sourced from  here..

 

So Live your Life..

LOVE your Life…

Its for Living 🙂

Its For Loving… Be YOU

And Spread your Love and Happiness Far and Wide.. and Remember as Long

as You Die doing something you love.. Be happy 🙂

Ensure that WHEN you do go – whether thats tomorrow or 20 years..

that You are Know

You Lived Life to the Fullest

You Loved Yourself Fully

You Loved Others Fully

When You Do All This –

You are Happier and You Attract Everything You Ever Wanted.. its that Easy…

 

I am Passionate About Helping People Like You –

Be The Best You Can and Attract The Life You Want And Deserve, Become Be Deliciously FREE

Accept Yourself…and Whilst you are At it -check out this website, thanks John for this one…Change the world

x Helen

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Love Really is All Around

 If you ever needed proof that Love Really is All Around, I found it today

My mother has for a long time read the Daily Mail, its a UK paper that actually a few years ago was known for, lets just say causing older people to be miserable, however, they read it like a bible.
 
Today, Saturday I picked it up, I tend to read my horoscope (its eerily right) and pick through the rubbish articles where they run down everyone from decent people to ‘villians of the peace’ and find the good articles..
 
Today I found two… Amazing articles to prove that Love really is All around
 

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